Monday, November 21, 2016

Household growth

     For over a year I have been trying to get my 2 kids out of the house. I am about 2 weeks from my daughter's place being ready for her to move into. My son just got the paper work on that piece of property we have been wanting for a year. This one just need power and 2 days cosmetic work inside.

     Just when it looks like we get the house back the wife's youngest daughter and the 2 grandkids moved in 3 weeks ago. Her and her husband lived in a basement apartment at his mothers house. Bla bla bla mom in law got into a fight . His mom told her to get out. The fight was because our daughter doesn't work . Now in our daughters defense the most she has ever made was 9$ an hour . She would have to pay 300 a week for day care resulting in a net loss.

   Long story short her and 2 kids (2 and 4) are living here. He is living there, they are sleeping in my camper :( while he has to make do with a 3 bedroom, living room, kitchen 2 bath apartment alone. His mom has money and he is scared  she would cut off his freebies. He makes 18.25 an hour they pay NO rent or utilities and are broke.

    I blame  Both him and our daughter for being spineless leechs . His mom is one that dangles a carrot from a stick so she can control them.
  I don't know how this will turn out. Everyone is Mad at me now . I made my view known . Told him all this was her buying him back because she abandoned him and his brother with their father when he was to 2 and returned when he was 28. And he was a SORRY S.O.B to allow his wife and kids to be run off while he stayed  for the free ride instead of leaving with them and getting them a home of their own. If he didn't like my opinion he was welcome to try and knock me on my ass but it wouldn't end well for him.

   Ok I have vented  . Thank you!

8 comments:

  1. Let 'em be mad and make sure you stand up for yourself.
    Sometimes a man has to do what a man has to do and the hell with what anyone else thinks.

    Good luck dude.

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    1. Phil as a man this has got under my skin. If it wasn't for the grandkids I would have already gone into head smashing mode. My wife has been good to my kids about living here so I have to temper my actions but not my opinion or words.
      (she agrees with what I have said but a Mom is a Mom) So I get to be the Mean one.

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  2. God bless you and may He help resolve the situation.
    maybe this will give the son in law the impetus to become either a man or a reasonable facsimile thereof.

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    1. God provided a natural urge that will correct the boys outlook soon. He call her Sunday begging for a booty call visit! She laughed and said till he grew up they could turn blue. Biology Gods secrete weapon for immaturity. :0.

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  3. i hope he is sending her and the babies some money.

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    1. He has give her 100$ for the month shes been here. Most of it is on me.

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  4. I know first hand the situation you’re in and I feel for you. Myself, I was lucky with my son and never faced the problems you are, mostly because I got him away from his party-girl mother and raised him myself. I have many friends who are in your same situation, some of those kids and worthless mates are approaching 40 years old and still living at home with their children, broke, no job and no future. Party-time is most important to them, not their own home, family and a career.
    My friends that managed to break that cycle demanded the children and mates split and never meet again. It did work for them, although in the beginning caused a lot of pain. Their children do get over the split and will be much better off long term. Otherwise their children will grow up just like mom and dad and the cycle continues. Also the courts will award her at least half his income for child support.

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    1. I am waiting for the holidays to be over if the situation hasn't changed I will make it change. I believe he is going to leave her. Him and his mom want her to get a job to reduce his child support liability. Right now he is on the hook for 1127$ a month plus insurance by state calculator. Her working would drop it to 700 or less. I am quiet till I go off and I know the system I paid 137,458$ In child support before my ex died and I got my kids back.

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